Solution to religious conflict require skills and not just a mere process of judging the right party and the wrong party in a time of disagreement, but always involves a comprehensive approach to the matter at hand. Therefore, this reflection paper will seek to analyses by comparison or contract of the family system concept with that of precollege or opportunity in acting as a peacemaker in softening hearts.
I have always believed that softening people’s hearts during a religious conflict calls for a privileged peacemaker because the magnitude of conflict may surpass the use of the family concept in arriving at a solution. Privileged Peacemakers as we have learned in the previous sessions are inspired individuals who have learned skills of listening with an intention of a deeper understanding of the issue at hand so that by the time he or she passes judgment, no party will feel offended but comply with the condition put forward by the peacemakers.
Use of family concept to solve conflicts may only succeed because one understands the members of that family, therefore, he or she will be quick to identify where a mistake lies and channel the conflict resolution process to a quick end. On the other hand, a privileged pacemaker more often than not is endowed with great skills to understand the situation at hand hence solving the religious conflict with ease. In my opinion, a privileged peacemaker is a quick learner in a time of religious conflict resolution, and he or she will endeavor to find a solution that is not partisan.
The family concept of religious conflict resolution is very tiresome because not everyone will be pleased with efforts made by one member. The one to solve such issues must fast gain the trust of the entire group. In gaining the trust of the entire group, he or she must apply checks and balances at all-time not to cause separation amongst the members of the congregation. In addition, separation of members from one congregation to another is never the best solution to the religious conflict in my opinion. This is because, in the next congregation that a breakaway member may join, they could be undergoing other nature of conflict hence the member may shift to another congregation. Continuous shifting, therefore, will solve no conflict hence, a privileged peacemaker may be required to soften hearts of the offended in the religious congregation.
In addition, the skills of using the eyes as employed by the privileged peacemakers are of great significance in religious conflict resolution. As we learned in the previous sessions, the eyes of a privileged peacemaker will always be attentive in a time of conflict resolution, in the process, a listening ear is given to the parties to for each to have a word. It is true to say that every person wished to be listened to in any way possible, they will feel important as well as cared for in such a process. The eyes, therefore, are key to identifying details including the body language hence an appropriate judgment can be reached h thereby solving a religious conflict.
In conclusion, a family way of conflict resolution should be supported with skills like good listening, speaking from the heart because such skills will always be the answer to solving such conflicts. Peacemakers in making a final judgment in a time of religious conflict resolution should employ great imagination as well as ask various questions during the process that will always help to restore a lasting peace and serenity in such difficult moments in a regions congregation at all time. Therefore, a privileged peacemaker is better placed in solving religious conflict than the family concept.
Friedman, Edwin. Generation to generation: Family process in church and synagogue. Guilford Press, 2011.